What does it mean to “be well’? Of course the first thing that comes to mind is our physical wellness. There is nothing that will make you value your health more than recovering from a battle with a terrible sickness, right? There are many factors to our personal wellness that can creep up and affect our physical and mental well being. How do you handle them?
Emotional wellness is something that our society mishandles in large part. We mask our sad emotions with happy things and medication. Pills are the answer to many mental health obstacles today. If you are sad them go cheer yourself up with some shopping. Upset? Go see a feel good movie or eat an ice cream. These are all temporary medications in their own way. What’s wrong with expressing that you are sad? Is there something wrong with crying about it. Instead of looking to the outside to fix us, we can choose to look within, sit with sadness and learn from it.
Today on my run I cried because I was overcome with sadness. In fact, I’m still a little teary right now. I’m not being a “baby”, I’m just coping with the grief I feel from loss of those close to me. I just told my husband Chad that I am having a hard time, not because I want his sympathy, but because I want him to understand my tears and not feel bad for me (it also felt really good when he gave me a sincere hug and asked me if there was anything he could do even though there really isn’t).
This time of year is difficult for me. Mothers Day 2011 was the last day I saw my mom smile, heard her voice and hugged her. Two weeks later I sat with her while she passed. This month brings up many memories and thoughts of what could have been. The sadness of the death of my beloved Rosie on top of this leaves me feeling a deep sadness that I am learning to cope with. I’m diving into how I feel and why I feel this way so that I can glean a better understanding of myself.
The components of our wellness are always in flux. Being happy all the time sure doesn’t mean that you are perfectly well. It doesn’t mean that you are not, but happiness is a temporary emotion. People who are emotionally balanced may cry just as much as they laugh. They may get sad a lot. They look honestly at themselves and allow themselves the space to soak the emotion up. They learn from pain rather than bury it with outside distractions. They look deep inside face the fear we all have of not being happy.
We need to let go of the pre conceived notion that we have to be happy all the time to be well. Mourn the losses you need to mourn. You may never get over them, but the lessons that sad times hold can really help you understand your life’s purpose. Don’t be afraid of your “not happy” emotions. They are there to help us relate to each other and to the world around us. Life is not a freakin’ bowl of cherries. Its a roller coaster through the depths of our darkest fears and up to the peaks that hold our greatest dreams. Keep your eyes wide open and soak it ALL up, for better or worse. Give that to yourself, and give that space to others too. That is wellness.
Gumsaba Fitness Class schedule Wednesday 5/21/14
5:30AM Womens only Sunrise class – Coach Karen – Lower Body Sculpt
5:30AM Sunrise Danville Mens only class – Coach Allen
6AM Sunup Moraga Womens only Class – Coach Briana – Mindful Basics + Cardio Blaster
8:15AM Sunrise Moraga Womens only Class – Coach Briana – Mindful Basics + Cardio Blaster
9AM Sunshine Walnut Creek Womens only class – Coach Michelle – Lower Body Sculpt
11:30PM Cytosport Boot camp Lite Benicia – Coach Michelle (private class) TRX RIP & Suspension
12:30PM Cytosport Boot camp Benicia – Coach Michelle (private class) TRX RIP & Suspension
4PM Cytosport Yoga Benicia – Coach Michelle D. (private class)